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Can technology keep my fear of abandonment at bay when my best friend goes away?
By Bhavna Singh
Johannesburg, 23 May 2006

My best friend is jetting off to London in exactly a month and I`m more rattled by her leaving than she is. Who is going to comfort me and listen to my incessant venting about all things female?

I confess I am the proverbial black pot because a few years ago I deserted her to become a Rodent. It was then that I learnt about the addiction one can have with an inbox.

She`d mail me every day and I would trek to the Jac Lab (Jacaranda computer laboratory to those unfamiliar with Rhodes), at 4am to receive every last detail of what was happening in the greater Durban area. I had a mental picture of all that she surveyed.

By this logic, I should quell my selfishness and surrender to e-mail communication.

My computer memory back then was too small to do what I wanted to do and the Internet consisted of text-only correspondence. But now she can send me pictures and videos of Big Ben (even though on her last visit she confirmed that the "Big" is a marketing gimmick).

The world has shrunk to miniscule proportion.

Bhavna Singh, junior journalist, ITWeb

All this, of course, as I cross my fingers and hope she figures out the sync function to her cellphone, which itself has matured with time and can now "roam" and capture the moment on "film". A far cry from the Alcatel I wielded those many years ago.

Roaming is the ability to use a cellphone in a foreign country, minus the hassle of changing SIM cards. The catch: the user foots the bill for incoming and outgoing calls and messages, so I don`t think I`m going to be getting any MMSes of Buckingham Palace.

My other half was skiing in Switzerland a little while ago and if he didn`t love me, he would`ve killed me for checking on him daily to make sure he hadn`t fallen off the mountain. For the cost of his phone bill, I could`ve gone along and kept an eye on him while sipping Mo"et & Chandon Champagne on the mountaintop.

Gone are the days of beepers and asking an operator to connect you. There isn`t even lag time, as I discovered when calling the Alps (I grin only because it could have all been avoided if he just took me along). The world has shrunk to miniscule proportion.

I think I`m done consoling myself. It won`t be that bad... I`ll vent via e-mail religiously, hastily SMS for emergencies (those times when I need instant gratification) and dedicate an Outlook folder to all correspondence. I`ll be okay.

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